Trusting God When We Don’t Want To

I have a confession to make. I’m not crazy about some Bible verses. You know, the convicting ones. The ones that divide marrow and joints, that  “Judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart” (Heb. 4:12, NIV). The particular verse I’m thinking of is Proverbs 3:5-6; “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight” (NIV). If you’ve been in Christian circles for a bit, I’m sure you’ve heard this verse before. It shows up on cute little plaques and magnets in Christian book stores, and is often quoted at graduations as advice for the new graduate. It sounds sweet, simple and easy to understand and follow. I mean we all know Solomon, who wrote the Book of Proverbs, was the wisest man in the world, so why should this passage bother me? Well, I’m a planner and I figure-it-out- er. If you are like me, you overthink everything. You figure out everything. You speculate about everything until your brain hurts. You’re a fixer, a solution finder. The whole world depends on you. If this describes you, you might be a mom like me. The mom who over packs for family vacations, squeezing every little item that might be needed in case of injury, sickness, accident, trip delay, hunger, thirst- I think you get the picture.
But, over the years God has tripped me up with all my planning and figuring out for every contingency. Just when I think everything is going as planned and is all figured out, bam! something I hadn’t planned happens. Then I am left scrambling to figure out what to do and how to react, or why did this happen?  It is usually about this same time I will be reminded of Proverbs 3: 5-6. Maybe from a sermon or the verse of the day on the radio. But there it is “trust in God, don’t lean on your own understanding. Uggh! then comes the guilt over leaning on my own understanding.
     So, I’d like to offer this hope for all of you fixers out there and planners. God has a way of helping us to understand His Word through practical application and experience. I’ve learned to pause and trust God when I’m overwhelmed by my thoughts of figuring it all out. It has taken time, but God is patient, He never leaves us as we were, but changes us overtime to become all He has for us, transforming us into the likeness of Jesus.(2. Cor. 3:18)

Recently, my husband and I moved to a new home. We are on the verge of being empty nesters with our youngest in his sophomore year of college. So, we decided to sell our large two story four bedroom house for the smaller bungalow with the master bedroom downstairs. Our house sold within 24 hours of going live on the market. Wow! So we had been looking to build a new home with all the bells and whistles, fresh clean, new. But.. we couldn’t find a good fit for us, we went to every open house, checked out new home communities and it was getting stressful. But the stress was just beginning. We stopped at our current home with our real estate agent, and took a quick look. It wasn’t even on our list to tour for the day. It was the last house to see and we were just driving by when our agent saw the for sale sign on the lawn. We returned home later that afternoon and decided the home we toured might be a good buy, so we quickly put in an offer. It really wasn’t what we “thought” we wanted as it was not new. I had promised myself I wouldn’t compromise on my desire for a brand new build. So here I was putting an offer on a older home. Yikes! Of course after the offer was accepted I began to second guess myself. What had we done? My husband and I pray about all decisions and we prayed for God’s direction and if He wanted us to continue, then the doors would remain open. We trusted God would lead us. But to be honest I woke up on many early mornings and panicked. What we were doing? This can’t be right. Maybe we made a mistake. I wanted a brand new house this time. The purchasing process continued and then it was time to move in. And little by little I began to understand this house, was the one I was looking for. It had all the bells and whistles as a former model home. It was perfectly set on a pond lot with a long driveway- just what we were looking for in a newer home. The appliances were upgraded and not builder grade. I could go on, but I’m sure I would bore you. So, I’ll just say, God had it under control. He knew what we needed better than we did. I was looking at the outside, not really understanding what I thought I needed. When God began to show me this, He reminded me of Proverbs 3:5-6. I am slowly learning to trust God, follow His opportunities and let Him direct my paths. I’m a slow learner- definitely a work in progress. But aren’t we all? We are not perfect nor have we arrived. We can’t figure it all out. As much as I try- I need to relax and trust God. This applies to this next stage of life for my husband and I. This is unknown territory to us as we become empty- nesters. But I know God’s got this! I don’t have to figure it out! -God Bless -Nancy



Stop the World! It’s Moving Too Fast!

Well, it’s that time of year again when many Moms and Dads send their children off to school. Some parents might welcome the peace, quiet and stability of the school year. But, most will admit that first day can be rough. I remember the tears shed when it was time for each of my kids to go to their first day of kindergarten. The tears showed up again as I dropped off the same kids as college freshmen. Life was moving fast and I wanted it to stop! Just for a moment, so I could savor and enjoy their company. Even now my youngest will be going back for his sophomore year of college. I’m sure there will be a tear shed on the three hour drive back home. I remember him in kindergarten, in what seems like a day ago. College graduation will come again too soon and he will be off to live his own life where ever it takes him, like his sister and brother before him.  I now find myself going back to kindergarten with my daughter, but this time with her as the teacher! I find myself excited for her and I enjoy helping her shop for classroom supplies.

I wish I could remember how many older women would offer the same advice for me as a young mom” Enjoy them now, because they grow up so fast” It was all the time! I respected their advice, but somehow, I didn’t want to accept that fact. I wanted to hold my kids forever and let life slow down. How about you? Do you ever feel like life is just too much change and growth? Do you ever just want it to slow down? It would be nice, but deep down we know we must accept the fact that it doesn’t slow down. Change is hard. We discussed before over coming fear and trusting God for strength to try new things. But how do we respond when we are forced to change? What then? Life is full of change and much of it is not from our own choosing. Kids grow up, move away, jobs change, friendships change, and people leave us. We cannot avoid life changes. They are scary, but just like facing fears, we can handle and accept life changes with God’s grace. It’s important to look forward in times of change and look for the good in them. Every time one of my kids- I mean adults- leaves to further their education or enter the workforce, I remind myself they are going to fulfill what God has called them to do. Every time there is change of people or places I must leave, I trust God has a good plan and I will meet new people and make new friends. Romans 8:28 is often quoted, but is a very good reminder during times of change: “And we know in all things God works for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purposes” When we are shaken by change, we must turn to the one who never changes, God. God does not change and neither does His Word, the Bible. We can find comfort from reading the Bible and direction for us to go. Psalm 119: 105 says ” Your word is a lamp for my feat, a light on my path” (NIV) So, when you face change, the best place is to go to God’s Word. Change isn’t easy, but you can do it! Allow yourself to grieve what has been lost, and take comfort from God as He works everything in a wonderful new direction for our good. God Bless- Nancy

Monday Moving Forward

Facing fear and moving forward

Last time we discussed taking one step of faith at a time on this journey of faith. I mentioned that fear is the biggest obstacle to taking that first step. So I thought I would share a time in my own life that I faced my fears head on and stepped out: I learned to swim at the age of 40. I know for some of you that is no big deal. But, I’m confident that there are others of you our there who know exactly what I’m talking about. I never learned to swim as a child, and grew up to be afraid of the water. After I had married and had children of my own, I made sure they took swimming lessons. They turned out to be great swimmers. But, there I was, sitting on the sidelines, while they and my husband enjoyed the pools, water parks, lakes, oceans, rivers, etc. They were like little fish. I finally got the nerve to take adult swim lessons. There were others like myself who were deathly afraid of the water, but with the patience of the instructor, we all learned to at least do a simple stroke to keep us afloat. I was very proud of myself that I had accomplished a goal that was long over due at the milestone age of 40. I will tell you now, that I am not a great swimmer, but I join in and really enjoy swimming. I share this story to let you know, you can face whatever it is that paralyzes you today. When you face one fear and learn that you can do it with God’s strength, it gives you courage to try other things and face other fears. Fear is something that doesn’t magically disappear when you become a follower of Christ, but it is something to be faced with His help. We will feel afraid at times, but we are never alone. Isaiah 41:10 says, “So do not fear for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” (NIV). Facing my fear of the water helped me later on when I decided to go to college at 48. There were struggles and other fears I had to face throughout that journey, but last May I graduated with honors from Liberty University. It was another goal I had set for myself when I left high school, that someday I would go to college.  Someday came and I am so glad I faced the fear of going back to school. Maybe that’s your fear today. or perhaps it something else. But be encouraged. You can do it! God Bless- Nancy


Step 1 Of A Thousand!

Someone once said a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. A little cliche I know, but there is truth in this old time saying. It’s the first step that gets me! I find myself so intimidated by all the what if’s. “What if this fails?” “What if they don’t like me?” This fear of failure often keeps me from taking that first step. How about you? Does the future scare you or intimidate you? You might not share in this fear of failure, choosing instead to boldly blast through life unafraid and undaunted by life’s challenges and changes. I applaud you for your confidence. But… for even the bold and the brave, the thrill seekers, there are times in our journey of life that knocks us to our knees. The unplanned of life that  just can’t be reasoned away; the untimely death of a loved one, the unforeseen breakup of a relationship, the job termination, the health diagnosis, the loss of financial security.  These are the times that freeze us in our tracks. What do we do? What should we do? What needs to be done? How am I supposed to handle this? These are the questions that dog at our minds and intimidate even the bravest and boldest. What’s the first step? Prayer and pause. When we face these unexpected changes we must first realized we cannot handle it alone. God is with us and is for us. That is if we are for God. Without a relationship with Him, we find ourselves doing life on our own for ourselves. I do not apologize for this reference to a relationship with God. If you, like me have accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior, you have a personal relationship with God and He is for you. If you have never accepted Christ, then you have basically no relationship with God. So your first step is to pray and received Christ as Savior. We were never meant to do life on our own. We were made for relationship with God and each other. The first book of the Bible, Genesis, describes this relationship. The first man and woman, Adam and Eve were created for an intimate relationship and oneness “The two shall become one flesh” (Gen. 2:24). God walked with Adam in the cool of the day (Gen. 3:8). Sounds pretty good? Life was good. Until they messed it up. The relationship between the man and woman was changed and most importantly their face to face relationship with God was messed up. They had chosen to live for themselves and disobey God by sinning against Him, forfeiting that personal relationship with God, their creator. So were we left on our own? To figure this all out alone? To do enough good to outweigh the bad stuff we do? The answer is no, for God provided for man a way to restore a relationship with Him. A way that doesn’t rely on a set of scales balancing good verse bad in our lives. God provided a payment. His Son. The first step is to realize that we are in the same position in God’s eyes as Adam and Eve; we have sinned against God and on our own we can’t pay enough or do enough good to change it. We must believe that Jesus was sent by God to take our sin upon Himself when He died on the cross, that He rose on the third day, just as He said, and has defeated death. Acts 2:21 promises that “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved” “For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved” (Romans 10:10). If this is you today, in need of a relationship with God, then your first step is to pray to receive Christ. This is your first step to a journey that lasts forever. I took this step and am on this amazing journey. Won’t you join me?  I don’t claim to be perfect or get it right all the time, but together we can follow this great journey of faith and life together. God Bless -Nancy

A Journey always begins with the first step